If you have been following me, you will know that over the last month I have been talking and blogging about Mindset.  In my blog post called How To Shift Your Mindset, I gave an overview of 6 techniques to shift your mindset, and each week since then I have been looking at each of those 6 techniques in more depth. 

The first of these was about Taming Negative Inner Self Talk, and I created a free downloadable workbook to go alongside the blog which you can obtain on the same link.

The second blog was about the Negative Narrative that we have with others, where I shared insight into the habits we fall into and how to change them.

This week I am sharing 8 Actionable Tips to Deal With What’s Bugging You Most. I have created another free downloadable workbook to go with this blog and you can obtain this here:   https://suejaycock.co.uk/8-actionable-tips-to-deal-with-whats-bugging-you-most/

Let’s dive right into this week’s topic of What’s Bugging You Most.  We are all familiar with the experience of being really tired, getting into bed and then your brain starts up – going over and over and whatever it is that it wants to have a worry about.   Unless we are very blessed, we have worries, don’t we – it is all part of the territory.  When we are busy during the day we can often manage to keep the worries under the surface by being busy, but as soon as we relax then our mind gremlins think it is their time to come out and cause havoc. 

Now, I’ve previously shared with you some tips and techniques to manage this inner voice, (see my freebie Taming Negative Inner Self Talk ) but there are times when we need to listen up and take some action.  How will you know the difference?  The time to listen up and take action is when you know that the Thing That Is Bugging You Most is a genuine concern, not a trivial mind monkey muttering.  Let me give you examples of both.

Inner Critical Voice on a negative rampage:                                        

You’re not good enough                              

You’re rubbish with money                         

You’re so clumsy

You’re so fat

You’re so lazy    

Examples of genuine worries and concerns:

I’m worrying about employment

I’m worrying about a relationship problem

I’m worrying because of health issues 

I’m worrying about finances


  1. What is the worry?
    First of all I want you to ask yourself, what is the worry, and write it down in a sentence.
  2. What is the impact of this?
    Secondly I want you to write down what the impact is of this worry on you or your family.
  3. Is there anything I can do about this?
    Make a list of everything and anything you can think of that you can do about this – don’t worry if the ideas sound ridiculous, write them all down.
  4. Which of these would you like to take action on?
    Out of the list you have created in No 3, choose the action or actions that are most realistic, the ones that you feel confident that you can take action on. It might be one action that you choose, or it might
    be several – just make sure they are realistic and doable.
  5. What might get in the way of taking action on this?
    For each of the items that you have chosen in No 4, write down what might get in the way. It is good to be aware of this – being aware and honest helps you to avoid tripping up or making excuses!
  6. Who or what could help me with this action?
    Is there a friend you could enlist? Someone you need advice from? Who could help you with this?
  7. Set a Goal
    Once you have decided on your action, and looked at what might get in the way, and who might help you with the action, it is time to set a goal around this action. This looks like:
    By (date) I will have (describe the action)
  8. How Will I Feel? Once you have achieved your goal, how will it feel?

This is something you can do on your own, but if you find this difficult, and have a lot of things going on for you in your life at the moment, you might want to consider working with a life coach like myself.  Working with a life coach not only speeds the process up but it really helps you to set meaningful and constructive goals enabling you to move on in your life in a much more positive way.  

I have created a free downloadable pdf workbook explaining this technique, and giving examples and tips. I have also included printable sheets for the exercise. You can get your copy here. https://suejaycock.co.uk/8-actionable-tips-to-deal-with-whats-bugging-you-most/

As always, I hope that you have found this helpful and if you would like to discover more about working with me then please get in touch.

Thanks for reading!